Category Archives: Inspirational

Change your life in 30 days

I’m having a little difficulty getting started this New Year – perhaps it was the house filled with guests over Christmas or perhaps it is my resistance to setting resolutions for the New Year that have “shoulds” in them. I’m much more interested in asking myself three questions.

1.    What do I want to stop doing?
2.    What do I want to do less of?
3.    What do I want to do more of?

Those seem like a saner way to live the next year than making resolutions that I’ll forget in the next couple of weeks and feel defeated.

A year seems overwhelming – 365 days to accomplish a goal. It is easy to lose sight of what you want to accomplish.

My solution is the 30 day resolution. What do you want to do in the next 30 days? Change comes in small bite size pieces to get you to your goal.

Thirty days give you an opportunity to try it out. See if that resolution works for you. So start exercising for half an hour for 30 days, or talk to someone new every day or keep your desk organized for only 30 days.

It takes 21 days to create a habit or break a habit, so with 30 days, you’ve had success and results. One person I know decided that she would drink eight glasses of water a day. Although she found it difficult at first she now has the habit of drinking more water – she doesn’t necessarily drink eight every day, but certainly she drinks more than she did before her 30 day trial.

The 30 day challenge is easy to mark off the days. Another person I know decided to give up wine for 30 days. He found that he was doing a count down – only 3 more days to go before he could have wine. That glass at the end of the 30 days tasted delicious! He enjoyed it like no other glass he’d tasted.

The 30 day trial gives you:

1.    The time to establish a new habit
2.    An opportunity to break an addiction
3.    Success to draw on
4.    Definite results of your efforts for the past 30 days.

What do you want to do for your trial 30 days?

Some thoughts on Selling Yourself

If the idea of selling yourself or your product gives you hives, I’m thinking you may want to think again.

So many of my clients feel nervous about putting themselves forward. They associate selling yourself with bragging, having a too large an ego or just being plain uninterested in anyone else.

First of all, we are all participating in self promotion whether we are conscious of it or not.  The way we dress, talk and engage with people is selling ourselves in situations. We want to be liked and accepted.

Secondly, if you tap into the reason you are doing what you are doing, your natural energy comes forward.

As soon as one of my clients begins to describe what they do or want to do, they are immediately infused with excitement. They are totally passionate about what they love. People they are talking to are always very interested to hear that kind of energy.

That’s self promotion – coming from the undeniable place of your enthusiasm. Just you talking about what you love to do and sharing it with people who may need you, your product or your services .

Happiness part 2

More on happiness…

Making a difference.

I love working with clients to achieve their goals. It heartens me to see them overcoming obstacles. Sometimes the hardest ones to overcome are their own belief systems of thinking they are not smart enough or they don’t have enough support or money to accomplish their dreams. Coaching them through their own mirage is an incredibly satisfying experience.

Being in beauty.

I am fortunate to live overlooking the ocean. It’s a really nurturing and inspiring place to be. I walk every morning around a bird sanctuary where the herons grace the sandbars. The ducks are getting ready to fly south. It seems like they are practicing their flying formation on the water – each duck following one behind the other.

What makes you happy?

What makes you happy?

Just finished reading Gretchen Rubin’s book on The Happiness Project. She looked at how to increase her happiness for a year. Rubin wasn’t unhappy – she just wanted to be happier and drew upon philosophers, new age thinkers and literature for inspiration.

So my mission is to do things that make me happy for this next month. Here are my top 5 to-day. What excites you?

1. De-cluttering. That has to be one of the most pleasurable tasks, once you get down to it. That’s the challenge isn’t it? Making the time and the space to recycle old things, papers, and clothes that have outlasted their usefulness. There’s space on my desk and room on my bookshelves for new thoughts, ideas, and inspiration.

2. Creating and remembering happy memories. I don’t know about you but sometimes I can re-play unhappy events in my mind- from years ago. With my sister, I’m collecting all the memories of happy times in our family’s history, all the strengths and attributes that we received from growing up. What a difference that makes!

3. Facilitating workshops and doing presentations. I had such a good time doing the pitching workshop in St. John’s. I’m just going to do more of that this month for students at Centennial College and UBC and the Directors’ Guild and ACTRA on respectful workplaces.

4. Dancing. For the past month, I’ve turned up the music full blast and had a dance party in my living room almost every night. Since I’ve started to do that, I’ve found more opportunities to unleashed my wild style. More to come.

5. Meeting stimulating people with fresh ideas. I love conversations, lectures, films or pitches where I learn new things, take a fresh perspective or am totally inspired. I loved hearing about the social entrepreneur, Zita Cobb and the dreams she has for Fogo Island.

What makes you happy?

Interview with script consultant Linda Seger

One of the many delights of the St. John’s International Women’s Festival was the opportunity to spend time with Linda Seger, script consultant and author of numerous books on my reference shelf on script writing, adaptation and character development.

I took the opportunity to do a short interview with Linda on her process of reading scripts.

What are you looking for when you read a script?

Focus. I’m reading to see what this story is really about. At times, writers feel a need to fill their scripts with too many issues, characters and themes and it is difficult to grasp the essence of the script. When that happens, I look to the climax of the script. The focus should be there.

I also am looking for the best scenes of the script. That gives me a very clear idea of what the writer is capable of. There’s no sense using an Academy Award winner as a model if the writer hasn’t got the chops at this time. I use the best scenes as the way to encourage a writer.

I have had situations where the writer disagrees about the best scenes. One time I read the first three pages of a script and they were some of the best comedy writing I had ever come across. However, the writer veered away from that wonderful humour and went to some dark places which is where she wanted to focus. I found that part of the script less original, but that’s what she wanted, so my job was to focus on her desire.

I am also of course looking for structure-making sure that there are arcs, acts and scenes that make sense to the overall theme of the script.

I’ve read that if a script doesn’t sing in the first 15 pages, it is in trouble.

That is certainly true in a finished film. But as a script consultant, I’m looking for wherever the script works. If it doesn’t work until the last 10 pages, then I’ll try and pull everything up to that level. Sometimes writers don’t really start soaring until well into the script. Often the beginning, in early drafts, is filled with a very long set up and so we have to address that.

Certainly,the context of the world needs to be clear from the outset of the piece. For instance, in Romero about the Latin American priest, the producer presumed we knew about the priest and what he had accomplished. Some of my work included using the first 5-10 pages to establish the character and place him in a context so there wouldn’t be confusion for the rest of the film.

What is the one lesson writers can learn?

Probably that script writing is both a craft and an art. There’s a mistaken belief that if you take one script writing class, you are ready to write a script. Writing is a very complex process – like dancing or any art form that has technique you need to master. Learning all about the craft – structure, images, and integrating scenes is the most crucial part of being a script writer. However, you need to move on from craft to art and that requires going deeper into the character, the themes and images. You have to keep writing to find your individual voice.

How do you suggest people go deeper into character?

Observe people. Have a journal where you jot down characteristics of people you see anywhere, your family members, or outrageous characters that you meet in your daily life. Real people provide you with the material for the many details that make characters in scripts fascinating.

What are your favourite films?

I think of Amadeus and Shindler’s List as the big gems and Stand by Me as the little gem. I’m always looking for films which go deeper both in theme and character. I also admire Witness since I have a personal connection to the people who wrote it. As well, my husband sort of proposed to me in the barn-raising scene, so it is very special to me.

Linda Seger is the author of 12 books, 9 on screenwriting, and has given seminars in 32 countries around the world and consulted on over 2000 scripts.